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Are Your Pre-Wedding Jitters Healthy?

September 23, 2015

 

Your big day is coming up and you’re panicking.

You just woke up with the dreaded feeling of cold feet.

Although society says it’s perfectly normal to have doubts or pre-wedding jitters, experts say that you may be setting yourself up for divorce if you have strong feelings of uncertainty.

So, should you walk down the aisle or should you run the other way?

Most couples date for at least a year before tying the knot and during this time, they fall in love, travel, laugh, and make memories.

What many couples fail to do is discuss and establish their true compatibility as life partners.

They don’t always talk about the serious stuff, like kids, finances, and core values.

Most people choose to simply “go with the flow”.

After all, who wants to talk about difficult topics when things are going so well?

But, this may be one of the reasons for such a high divorce rate.

 

Experts agree that communicating and discussing important issues before tying the knot can determine a couple’s future together.

 

You both need to be clear on your future vision, your family values, and your life goals.

If you’re having doubts and you’re not sure about certain things, it’s important to check in and figure it out BEFORE walking down the aisle.

The Journal of Family Psychology published an interesting study.

Researchers reported that women who had doubts before getting married were 2.5 times more likely to divorce within four years than women who had no doubts.

It appears that having cold feet before the big day is more problematic than once thought.

So how do you know if your feelings are perfectly normal or a sign that trouble lies ahead for you?

 

Here are three questions to ask yourself before the wedding.

1 – Do you enjoy spending time together?

If not, this isn’t a good sign.

If he likes golf and you like dancing, that’s cool …. But if you don’t enjoy spending time together before getting married, your relationship is probably doomed after the big day.


2 – Do you share the same values?

If not, have you communicated your concerns and established a happy compromise?

If you don’t share the same family values or religion, that’s okay. However, you need to discuss this beforehand so there are no surprises later.


3 – Do you fear you won’t be faithful?

This is a BIG sign that your relationship may be headed in a gloomy direction.

If you’re not attracted to each other or are struggling with trust issues, it’s a good idea to put your wedding plans on hold and work through these feelings.

Experts say you need to communicate these feelings with your partner and seek relationship counselling before moving forward.

The best way to begin your future together is to plan together.

Get aligned.

Be open.

And communicate.

Communication with your fiancée will either strengthen your bond or it will show you a new direction.

Either way, it will give you answers, release your doubts, and surely warm up your feet.

 

Dr.Sara Celik
Dr. Sara Celik is a board-certified Naturopathic Doctor and is the Spokesperson for Renew Life Canada. She is a leader in the health and wellness industry and is regularly featured as a sought-after expert on television programs and in health publications. Dr. Sara carries over 15 years experience and her private practice and work in the community is focused on digestive health, detoxification, and clinical nutrition.
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