Whether you dated your ex for three months or three years, breakups can hurt like crazy.
Following a breakup, both men and women go through a variety of emotions – feelings of disappointment, sadness, anger, frustration, and confusion are quite common.
Although these feelings are perfectly healthy and normal, it’s important to heal, make peace with your ex, and move forward.
Staying stuck in the breakup blues can be tremendously unhealthy and unproductive.
I know that moving on is not always easy, but there are proven steps that can help you get through the breakup blues faster.
6 Daily Practices to Heal Your Breakup Blues
1 – Timed Tears
Crying is a healthy way of releasing emotions. It’s not only okay to cry following a breakup, it’s absolutely essential.
Tears contain stress hormones and toxins. Crying can be very therapeutic (both physically and emotionally).
Just remember to time your tears – don’t spend days weeping alone in your apartment. Call up friends, get social, and engage in activities outside your home that you enjoy.
You will get through this.
2 – Talk It Out
I don’t have enough space to list the health benefits that come with communicating feelings. Following any breakup, it’s important to ‘talk it out.’
Call your friends, book an appointment with a therapist, or write in your journal. Anything you can do to assist with ‘processing your feelings’ is a good idea.
Get emotional support from a few quality friends or health professionals you can depend on.
3 – Get Touchy
Hugging, cuddling, and even massage therapy release endorphins – the ‘feel good’ hormones our body produces.
Oxytocin – our favorite love hormone – increases in both men and women with comforting physical touch.
Being held by somebody you care about can also reduce the stress hormone cortisol, which can be very helpful following a stressful separation.
If you don’t feel like being around friends or family just yet, go for a massage at the spa. Healing hands go a long way.
4 – Move Your Body
If you haven’t hit the gym a day in your life, now is the time to get off the couch and move your body. Take up a Zumba class, lift weights, hit the punching bag, or take a walk by the lake.
You’ve got to do some sort of physical activity to heal the breakup blues.
The benefits of exercise are endless – you’ll release happy hormones, you’ll sleep better, and you’ll feel energized and more confident.
5 – Sweat in the Sauna
One study suggests that sauna treatments reduce anxiety and improve mood. This ancient daily practice will not only rid your body of toxins through sweating, but you can expect to feel deeply relaxed and rejuvenated.
Stay well hydrated throughout your sauna sessions and consider adding a few drops of Bach Flower Rescue Remedy to your drinking water. It is one of my favorite natural remedies used to comfort and reassure.
6 – Embrace Your Positive Side
Write down a positive affirmation and recite it daily.
Here’s an example of one that I like – “I will use this time to love myself and nurture my body. I leave this relationship with appreciation for the positive impact it had on my life. Thank you “insert name here” for being my greatest teacher.”
Repeat your positive affirmation many times throughout the day.
The end of your relationship may have been a mutual decision or you may have been dropped with no warning.
Regardless, find good memories to hold onto, and forgive your partner.
Relationship detoxing is about finding inner peace with yourself, and fully releasing your partner from your life.
It isn’t healthy to hold on. By doing this, you are just missing out on what life has to offer, like a better partner, a better relationship, and a better life.
This small chapter of your life has come to an end. Believe that the next chapter will be even better.
It always is.